What to do when you know you need to take action.
Your ex has dropped the bomb… whether you know your relationship is over or whether it is out of the blue, you suddenly get that things have changed forever. Initial steps you take are likely to shape the next twelve months ahead. Read to find out the first steps in divorce proceedings.
If you weren’t expecting the conversation you just had you will feel on the back foot. What do you do? Who do you call? How do you react? This post is for after you cried a river and called your BFF and put salt in your ex’s tea.
- Start with the internet: wikivorce and sorting out separation and women’s aid are good places to start for a lot of our clients.
- Count your pennies and decide HOW you will get legal advice. Full representation? Pay as you go? The barflies at the Dog and Duck?
- Download our free leaflets about kids and divorce
- Find out about mediation
- Start thinking about how to make things easier on the kids- clue: shouting the odds at each other is guaranteed not to help.
- Start with the pub. Or just a line. Or just a spliff to steady your nerves. You need a grip and to keep it together.
- Lose your temper. You are likely to get into trouble.
- Leave the matrimonial home without taking legal advice.
- Leave your children unless you take legal advice.
- Assume this has to cost thousands of pounds.