Reading based mother, Fiona, and her husband were living apart and leading separate lives. With children to feed and clothe, and no financial support from her husband, Fiona was struggling to make ends meet.
To make matters worse, her husband refused to even discuss a legal settlement or mediation. And his response to Fiona’s request for maintenance was to claim ‘he doesn’t need to pay because his business is making no money’. (Although this hasn’t stopped him buying a new car and going on three holidays abroad this year with his girlfriend).
Fiona was beginning to wonder if she could survive financially; her husband’s view was ‘if you can’t look after the kids, I’ll have them’.
There was only one way to get herself out of this situation – Fiona needed a divorce with a settlement that was fair to her, her children and her husband.
“Funds were tight.”
Fiona didn’t have money to burn. She needed to make sure every penny she spent on legal fees brought her nearer to a better financial position. She tried a different solicitors first, but it didn’t help: “Funds were tight. It was hard to find someone who I felt I could trust. I had a free interview with someone but after the hour was up I had told them all about me, but only got very general advice. I was no further forward.” – Fiona.
Fiona then came to us and family solicitor Helen started helping Fiona deal with her husband.
Fiona told us that whenever she tried to talk to her husband about mediation or a legal settlement he would be overbearing and tell her she was wasting time and money on greedy lawyers and professionals. Understandably, she just didn’t have the confidence to stand up to his aggressive behaviour.
“I met Helen and was immediately impressed by how she understood that the dynamics in the relationship were stopping me from sticking up for myself. I didn’t really understand that his behaviour was quite abusive, but now I can see not all abuse is violent; psychological and emotional abuse held me back instead.” – Fiona
“I met Helen and was immediately impressed by how she understood that the dynamics in the relationship were stopping me from sticking up for myself. I didn’t really understand that his behaviour was quite abusive, but now I can see not all abuse is violent; psychological and emotional abuse held me back instead.”
Getting a fair settlement
Nothing Fiona could say to her husband would make him mediate, but once he was in court, his tune changed and we were able to get to a good settlement that was fair to everyone.
The Family Law Services we provided for Fiona:
- Maintenance agreement
- Decree nisi
- Decree absolute
- Divorce advice
- Mediation advice
- Abusive behaviour
- Domestic abuse advice
- Consent order advice
- Court representation advice
- Fair settlement
“I found Family First Solicitors on the internet. They are local, sounded friendly and, best of all, the first interview was only £60 but unlimited in time. The costs were managed by the Pay As You Go system. I spent 40% less that my husband on legal fees – money I can spend on the kids.”
– Fiona, Lower Earley, Reading